What is Activity?
In the activity section, you can see who has been checking out your details. You might want to mail them back if you like the look of them. A red asterisk indicates the last activity between you and the other person.
How do I send Mail to someone?
Our mail service is completely confidential and discreet. You simply click on the member's 'mail' link from search results or from the full profile of the person you want to contact and then write and send! Once you have sent a mail, a copy will be put in your 'sent mail' folder, so that you can see who you have written to.
I have sent mail and not had any reply.
If you're not getting many responses, it might be a good time to spice up your profile and get personal with your emails. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
Post photos in your profile. Most people like knowing how other people look, before talking to them. The more photos you upload, the more likely people will contact you. In fact, most members only search for and write to people with photos, and that's why members with photos get 8 times more emails!
Be descriptive. Well thought out descriptions are what you need to stand out from the crowd and attract people you can connect with.
Write great personal introductory emails. Although "Hey, you look cute, check out my profile," may sound short and sweet, in fact, it really is a canned intro that is easily dismissed. When contacting other members, remember to ask yourself, "Why am I writing to this person?" and then tell him/her. Compliments, writing about things you have in common and a sense of humour can get you anywhere.
We cannot control whether another member writes back to you or not. We do hope that all our members are polite enough to say 'thanks but no thanks' if they are not interested.
Can I send attachments?
No, we do not allow attachments.
Can I send mail to an external Email address?
No, you can only send mail to other members of BeDiscreet, using their screenname. If you try to send mail to an external email address it will simply disappear!
Why do I get no results when I use search?
Search is based on what people enter into their own profiles. So, if you select a lot of criteria, you will only get results from people who have filled in all that information. So you may need to leave some sections completely blank... if something is not important to you, don't tick any boxes in that section at all - that way you will find people who simply haven't filled in that part of their profile yet. You can change the settings as much as you want. The best way to set up the right criteria for you is to start by only including the things that are absolutely essential... then add 'nice to haves' until you get a list of members who are about right for you!
How can I find men/women who live near me?
Make sure you have filled in your own postcode on the basic profile screen. This is never displayed to to anyone, but is used to 'power' our location tool. Then in search you will be able to look for other people who live within 10, 25, 50 or a hundred miles of you. Also you can use our Postcode search. Remember, if they haven't put in their own postcode, we can't tell where they live so you won't be able to find them!
How can I chat with other members using my Mobile phone?
Using our great new SMS Chat system you can easily send a message to any other member who has a mobile phone registered with us. So you can be sure that even if they do not currently have access to their email or a PC then they will get your message wherever they are. To learn more about how you can use it click "My mobile" in the top menu.